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Is it OK to go to bed angry?

TLDR: Despite what your friends and/or popular culture might say, it's not the worst thing in the world to go to bed in a less-than-ideal mood. But there is another piece of advice that you might find intriguing.

Tango's Take: Going to Bed Angry 👀

We've all heard the relationship advice to never go to bed angry. But how legitimate is it? Below, our in-house relationship expert, Dr. Rothman, busts the myth about not going to bed angry and instead offers another rule of thumb.

"You may have heard advice from relatives, TikTok, friends, or therapists on TV talking about how important it is not to go to bed angry. But guess what? It’s totally okay!

In relationships, it’s common for each partner to have slight (or big) differences in how long it takes them to recover from conflict. If I recover instantly or fairly quickly and my partner usually needs an hour or two, I’m probably going to want to process an argument sooner than my partner. At the end of the day, we have to respect and tolerate one another’s process and recovery time. That might mean waiting until the next morning or afternoon to hash things out. Not sure what your partner’s recovery time is? Talk about it! The more awareness we have, the better prepared we are.

The general rule of thumb is not to let something stew for more than 24 hours. Depending on when your argument occurred, it may or may not be processed before bedtime."

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